Despite all the preached diversity, most people long for their perfect counterpart, for someone with whom they can have a harmonious partnership on an equal footing. But perhaps the key lies in a little tension. A dating agency helps bring the right people together.
Birds of a feather like to socialize – that has long been the premise on which exclusive and reputable dating agencies acted. For the perfect match, it is a traditional approach to bring together people who meet on equal terms, are successful in their respective professions, have both feet in life and share as many interests as possible. This intersection of similarities should represent a congruence that acts as the basis for a stable partnership with a future.
“So much for the theory. Because the supposed equality, which in this case comes from purely external factors, is shaken at the first real meeting at the latest. Because of course people are so much more than the sum of status, performance, success and activities, gender, profession and social position. People are individuals, that's what defines them. And this is exactly where the real work of high-quality matchmakers comes in, bringing singles together professionally, passionately and seriously,” says Markus Poniewas, an experienced consultant at the matchmaking agency PV-Exklusiv (www.pv-exklusiv.de). The company, based in Düsseldorf and Mönchengladbach, is active throughout the German-speaking region and has been successfully bringing people of quality together for many years - for a common future.
Today's single people find themselves in a time in which individualization is the trump card, but which actually increasingly promotes equality. This also makes it increasingly difficult for matchmakers to fulfill their core task. Differences are tolerated only with difficulty or not at all, especially in opinions and beliefs. This leads to fundamental problems in the interpersonal area - not only, but also when looking for a partner.
“Anyone who has an opinion that differs from their own is quickly pigeonholed. Anyone who does not have the same demands or pursue the same goals must explain themselves. The mainstream dictates what is in and what is out, how one should think about certain situations and things and that equality in the sense of the broadest possible consensus is definitely desirable,” warns Markus Poniewas.
Express a clear opinion
As a result, potential partners are now sorted out on the first date because they have a clear opinion that they know how to represent, which may not correspond to their own or the generally accepted opinion. Many people have forgotten how to tolerate other attitudes and continually examine their own. As a result, a healthy culture of opinion and debate is lost.
“For a serious and exclusive dating agency like PV-Exklusiv The only thing that counts is the genuine relationship between people, because this is the only thing that brings long-term happiness, satisfaction and health. That's why: Advice is also the be-all and end-all in dating. Without good advice, you can't accompany people on their way to finding the right partner for life," emphasizes Markus Poniewas. “This advice is only possible on a personal level, where the matchmaker and the single trust each other and also talk about discreet matters - which of course are never made public, but are integrated into the subsequent search for a partner. Because only in this way is it possible to bring together two people who really fit together.”
The fine art of serious dating
Of course, every person is entitled to the same rights. But every person is different in their personality and thinking. Matchmakers also see this every day in their agencies - they see the differences between people as an enrichment. And the great art of reputable matchmakers lies in working out an intersection from precisely these differences.
That's why the experts are characterized by empathy, patience, persuasiveness and a trustworthy demeanor. They determine the complexity behind supposed equality and interpret it correctly in order to find the right dream partner. He may have his rough edges and may not always have the same opinion. But a little tension is good for every relationship. And maybe behind the small contrasts you can discover big similarities.