It's all too easy for people to drop potential partners because they aren't perfect in their eyes. But what does perfection mean? And what role does it play in a partnership? Markus Poniewas, managing director of the reputable dating agency PV-Exklusiv, gives advice.
The first contact via WhatsApp or telephone has to be right: what he or she says, the pronunciation, the tone of voice – everything. And the spark has to fly on the first date. The appearance and stature should be pleasing; there should be no faux pas with clothing or hairstyle. And getting together... It has to be amazing: falling in love at first sight, the first kiss sets off fireworks, the first sex is sensational, being together is a dream. The partnership should be fulfilling and happy, at the beginning and forever. But expectations are one thing, reality is often another. This results in frustration and disappointment - but this can be avoided.
If you really want a harmonious partnership, you would be well advised to get support from a professional and reputable dating agency in your search for the man or woman of your dreams. For a predetermined fee, the experts will apply their knowledge, sensitivity and many years of experience to keep their customers happy and satisfied.
“Although digitization simplifies our work as serious matchmakers, we use these options much more consciously and selectively than private users,” explains Markus Poniewas, managing director of the matchmaking agency PV-Exklusiv (www.pv-exklusiv.de). In general, however, the analogue agencies stand for the classic service of finding a partner, because one thing is certain: “Nothing can replace getting to know each other in person, just like open conversations, intensive dialogue and real togetherness in order to find out what the singles want and what they want “The partner really suits them.” Because sharing life with a person is a significant step – it should not be left in the hands of programmed algorithms.
Markus Poniewas sees the digital age as both a blessing and a curse when it comes to love: “Of course there are advantages when everything is available at any time and from any place. But the demands are constantly increasing.” It seems as if everything has to be perfect – after all, everyone else can do it too. At least that's the impression given by the 598 Facebook friends: beaming faces, breathtaking vacation photos, hugging your partner in the sunset, the finest food... That increases the pressure for many people. They don't want to be inferior to the others and unconsciously enter into competition.
“But what actually is perfection?” Markus Poniewas rightly asks this provocative question. The Duden describes it as “the highest perfection and execution of something”, as “complete mastery”. But no person or thing will ever come close to this definition. But if something isn't perfect, it doesn't mean it's bad. Something good always has the potential to grow and become better. There are always new ways to optimize it. “And the pursuit of perfection has a crucial catch, especially in the interpersonal area. Because when a relationship has reached its maximum, it only goes downhill,” says Poniewas. A perfect relationship would have no more downs - and therefore there would be no ups either. “The goal of perfection is unattainable and also not desirable.”
So people strive for subjective perfection. People, things and situations should not be perfect according to the Duden definition, but should correspond to one's own ideas. “Everyone decides for themselves what is perfect for them. Subjective perfection is nothing more than a personal evaluation – and it is never perfect.”
Reputable and experienced dating agencies try to achieve this subjective perfection for their customers by finding a partner who suits them.