Why do you fall in love with one person and not with another? Even researchers cannot answer this question. Dating agencies find the person for whom it works for single people.
Many people talk about the secret of love - which is just one of life's countless mysteries. Researchers around the world are looking for answers to the question of how and why one falls in love with a particular person. It has long been known that mice use their sense of smell to find the right female, and it has been concluded that the sense of smell could also play a role in humans. But since it is already popularly said “I can smell you well”, this finding cannot be described as groundbreaking.
“Numerous surveys also confirm that men prefer attractive women, while women care about men’s status. They prefer men with a lot of testosterone who appear muscular, striking and masculine. “Men choose women with high estrogen levels with full lips, a narrow waist and symmetrical breasts,” says Markus Poniewas, managing director of the renowned and reputable dating agency PV-Exklusiv (www.pv-exklusiv.de). But surveys only reflect trends. “Besides, attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. And status is also a question of your own assessment, whether you perceive it as high or low is decided by the benchmark and is of secondary importance on a real date,” says Poniewas. That's why he and his experienced employees find out the likes, wishes and dislikes in personal conversations in order to bring together two people who really fit together.
The phrase “birds of a feather like to mix” is put into perspective by “opposites attract”. The fact that reproduction with the aim of keeping a species as healthy as possible has always been the evolutionary priority and the associated opinion that likes and dislikes are predominantly aimed at this may play a role, but more like that of a statistic.
Culture and origin, education and profession are important when looking for a partner and falling in love. Similar values, interests and ideas serve to avoid conflict, at least in some cases and some areas. But the relevance of these factors is also not clear.
“When looking for a partner, there is only one constant - and that is the single himself: your own environment, personal preferences, the relationship between and with your parents and siblings, previous friendships, relationships and experiences with the opposite sex not only have a decisive influence on your own Search behavior, but also the quality of the partnership. “So it’s not surprising. “That you always have similar experiences in different partnerships,” says Markus Poniewas.
The patterns for finding a partner and relationships occur subconsciously and cannot be controlled consciously. “Most of the time it is not due to a lack of options when you are involuntarily alone for a long time or when there are more conflicts in a relationship than harmonious and happy moments,” says Poniewas. “Your own perspective and way of thinking and the resulting actions, communication and conclusions are responsible for this and at the same time are keys to doors that lead to the right partner. If these doors remain closed, the relationship is not bad, but no one is completely satisfied.”
On common online dating portals and dating sites, singles decide in seconds whether to like someone or not. Disillusionment often follows later because neither of them wants the same thing.
And even in analogue dating, it occasionally happens that after a match and the following first meeting, one or both of them are of the opinion that the spark has not been ignited, so that no further meeting is arranged. So love continues to be magical - and that's a good thing.