In a recent survey in German-speaking countries, 2.000 single women aged 28 to 46 questioned.
All respondents are professionally successful, educated, attractive and seriously looking for a partner – in other words, those women who outwardly have the best prerequisites for a happy relationship.
But the result of this study is surprising – and it shows a clear trend:
Many modern women are not just looking for love, but the almost perfect man.
An ideal that hardly exists statistically.
Impossible expectations – a man who hardly exists
When asked which monthly net income a man should have at least 62% of the women surveyed:
“At least 6.000 euros net.”
Cow 25% even said that they can only imagine a partner who 10.000 euros net or more earned.
But according to current income statistics, only around 2% of men 6.000 euros net – and only about 1% are 10.000 euros or more.
With a single desired criterion, at least 98% of all men already excluded.
Height, hair, figure – and the big misunderstanding
Similar trends are emerging in other areas as well.
When asked about the Height gave about 90% of women your partner should at least 1,80 meters tall .
However, a look at the statistics shows: The average man in Germany is 1,79 meters tall – and thus falls through the cracks for many.
In addition, there is the desire for full hair, athletic figure, Empathy, Cooking skills, generosity and emotional maturity.
But even the factor of “full hair” is unattainable for many men: According to dermatological examinations suffer about 70% of men in their late 20s under beginning Hair loss, a process that is usually genetic and becomes significantly more pronounced with increasing age.
Reality instead of wishful thinking
This discrepancy between desire and reality shows how far many ideas deviate from reality.
While women understandably desire a man with social stability, emotional maturity and attractiveness, the criteria often remain too narrowly defined.
The result: the choice becomes smaller – and the loneliness greater.
Statistically speaking, only a few men fulfill this multitude of conditions at the same time.
Income, appearance, height, education, leisure activities – all of this adds up to an almost unattainable overall picture.
Between ideal and isolation
These figures clearly demonstrate how much the discrepancy between expectations and reality has grown.
Many women remain alone today – not because there are no suitable men, but because their internal criteria catalogues are too narrow became.
In a time when independence and self-realization are taken for granted, love often becomes a selection process.
But love is not created on paper – and it does not follow a checklist.
Those who focus too much on perfection often overlook the person behind it.
Observations from practice
We at PV-Exklusiv, has been experiencing this trend for years:
"Especially with women with high standards, we often see that ideals overshadow reality. Yet the men we represent are sophisticated, educated, and successful—but not ideal figures. It's about real encounters, not ideals."
PV-Exklusiv has stood for decades for a serious, discreet and personal dating agency, which is based on home visits, intensive conversations and getting to know each other – far from the superficialities of online dating.
Conclusion
Perhaps it is time to not only look at these high standards from our own perspective, but also to honestly question them in our own environment.
If you have friends or family who really mean well, you should ask them openly how they see your wish list.
Honest voices will often say: “We all have wishes – but no one is perfect.”
Anyone who expects their partner to have full hair, a top income, an athletic figure, childlessness, cooking skills, and emotional maturity should also ask themselves honestly: Do I fulfill all of these points myself?
Do I have a full head of hair? Do I earn over €10.000 net? Do I go to the gym five times a week? Am I flawless? Can I cook well?
In moments like these, many things become relative.
The analysis of the survey also shows that most women gave their answers exclusively from one's own desired perspective have given.
Only a small minority – perhaps a handful – mentioned that men also have their ideas and desires.
And this is exactly where real encounters begin:
not where you evaluate, but where you moving towards each other.
Because love is not a list of demands – but the honest interest in discovering the person behind the wish list.